A Tale of Three Graves - Angama Mara

A Tale of Three Graves

25 October 2016 | Inside Angama |

Inspired by a chance meeting with a remarkable traveller, Nicky Fitzgerald set out to find the tale of three graves which weaves together the Out of Africa story with Angama Mara

Two years ago, a chance meeting in the middle of the Mara between two strangers inspired this little story.

I met a remarkable traveller – she knows who she is and would prefer to remain anonymous – who shared her story about her visits to Denys Finch Hatton’s grave in the lovely Ngong Hills above Nairobi and Karen Blixen’s grave under an ancient beech wood tree in Rungstedlund near Copenhagen.

And further inspired by this quote from Karen Blixen’s Out of Africa, I set out on a grave quest that took the better part of two years.

‘There was a place in the Hills, on the first ridge in the Game Reserve, that I myself at the time when I thought that I was to live and die in Africa, had pointed out to Denys as my future burial-place. In the evening, while we sat and looked at the hills from my house, he remarked that then he would like to be buried there himself as well. Since then, sometimes when we drove out in the hills, Denys had said: “Let us drive as far as our graves.”


We know the story:

  • 14 May 1931: DFH perishes in an air crash and is buried, as he wished, high up in the Ngong Hills.
  • 7 September 1962: Karen Blixen finally succumbs after a long illness at her family home in Denmark, far from her beloved Ngong Hills.

Karen’s unbearable longing for Africa, her farm and her employees never faltered through all the long years since, compelled by circumstances beyond her control, she was forced to leave Africa in 1931 and never return. In a letter to her mother she writes:

‘I have a feeling that wherever I may be in the future,
I will be wondering whether there is rain at Ngong.’


My visit to Denys’ grave with my colleague and city guide extraordinaire, Dennis Mwangi, was quite an expedition. We drove towards those lovely hills through the bustling if somewhat chaotic town of Ngong and ever onwards and upwards. Finally we spotted the teensiest sign – if we had blinked we would have missed it. Damaris, grand-daughter of the farm’s owner, was there to meet us and led us through a garden gate beyond which stood a 12ft obelisk. DFH’s grave is a moving monument to an extraordinary man who lived in extraordinary times. A line from Samuel Taylor Coleridge’s narrative poem, The Rime of the Ancient Mariner, inscribed on the obelisk perfectly captures the moment:

‘He prayeth well, who loveth well both man and bird and beast.’


My visit to Karen’s grave in far-off Denmark was a complete surprise. My brother, knowing that I dearly wished to visit her grave, gave me this trip as a birthday gift. I had no idea where we were going until we boarded a plane bound for Copenhagen. Can a girl get any luckier? We took a 35 minute train ride from the city to Rungsted Kyst station and from there walked 15 minutes through a lovely forest where we found Blixen’s lonely grave.


All she owned of Africa, a handful of earth she’d brought back with her to Denmark in a little wooden box, was mixed with the soil of Rungstedlund in her grave. The unadorned tombstone of Isak Dinesen, the world famous author, is inscribed simply ‘Karen Blixen.”
(Apologies – I simply cannot remember where I found this quote)

It was one of the most moving places I have ever visited.

A third grave, I hear you ask yourself? Yes, but no. At our lodge, under a beautiful moth tree, is a plaque marking the spot where Meryl Streep delivers that heart wrenching eulogy in the movie Out of Africa. So Robert Redford’s DFH is ‘buried’ right here. We remember that scene in the inscription:

‘Though in death fire be mixed with my dust, yet I care not,
for with me now all is well’.


And in closing, from the movie:

Karen Blixen: The mail has come today, and a friend writes this to me:

“The Maasai have reported to the district commissioner at Ngong, that many times, at sunrise and sunset, they have seen lions on Finch Hatton’s grave. A lion and lioness have come here, and stood or lain on the grave for a long time. After you went away, the ground around the grave was levelled out into a sort of terrace. I suppose that level place makes a good site for the lions. From there, they would have a view over the plain, and the cattle and the game on it.”

Denys will like that. I must remember to tell him.


Note from the Editor:
Please be sure to visit the Karen Blixen Museum next time you are in Copenhagen and book a private tour – it’s worth every cent. To arrange a visit to DFH’s grave in the Ngong Hills, call Damaris on +254 723 758 639 and be sure to have Ksh500 on hand for the entrance. Or better still, Dennis will gladly take you there – contact us to book.

AUTHOR: Nicky Fitzgerald

After more than 30 years in hospitality, starting with a small hotel at the foot of Africa and followed by a further couple of Cape hotels, most notably The Bay, and sixty plus safari lodges across Africa and India, Nicky has served more meals, puffed more cushions, filled more beds, trained more staff and opened more properties than she cares to remember. Her driving force is ‘will our guests love this?’ She has come full circle and is happily puffing, cooking, training and filling to her heart’s content high up on the edge of Kenya’s Great Rift Valley at Angama Mara.

Nancy Decker Davidson
October 26, 2016

I am so jealous! You have just given me another item to add to my wish list.

    Nicky Fitzgerald
    October 26, 2016

    Hi Nancy
    Lovely to hear from you! When you come to Kenya we will go to DFH’s grave together – it’s one of my most favourite places

October 26, 2016

I visited Karen Blixen’s home and grave in 2001. I has just finished 2yrs of Peace Corps service in Namibia. She has been a long time hero of mine and I rewarded myself with a trip to Denmark. I had the opportunity to see some amazing things in Southern Africa but this will always be a highlight for me. I even brought some Namibian dirt to place on her grave. I hope to one day visit her home in Kenya and DHF’s gravesite as well. Thank you for this wonderful posting …just the walk from the train station to her home brings a smile to my face.

    Steve Mitchell
    October 27, 2016

    Thank you for sharing your lovely KB story Erika – we look forward to welcoming you to Kenya one day soon

Duncan Butchart
October 27, 2016

So beautifully written Nicky . . .

    Nicky Fitzgerald
    October 27, 2016

    Thanks so much Duncs – you set the bar very high

Tessa Graham
November 30, 2016

What a lovely story… Thanks for sharing.

Kathy Small
May 12, 2018

One one of the many more important pursuits to a person’s soul that can matter!

John Hunt.
August 15, 2018

I am 85 years young.last night I dreamed I was on the Ngong Hills next to DFH’s memorial.Last visited 1957.!!!!!

    Nicky Fitzgerald
    August 15, 2018

    Dear John
    What a beautiful dream – DFH’s memorial is lovingly cared for by the family that own the land.
    I am sure Kenya has changed dramatically since your last visit but I can assure the kindness of the Kenyan people is just the same.
    warm regards

Maria Morrison
March 12, 2019

Hi Nicky,
After watching the movie “Out of Africa”, I fell in love with Kenya. But because of physical limitations, I’m unable to visit Kenya to visit Karen Blixen’s farm and also visit DFH’s grave. Copenhagen is now in my bucket list. It would be a great experience to see the Karen Blixen Museum. Thanks for sharing all the photos. For whatever reason, I watched the movie again tonight after about 5 years. Such a wonderful story.

    Nicky Fitzgerald
    March 13, 2019

    Dear Maria

    Thank you so much for this lovely comment and wishing you a wonderful trip to Karen’s home outside of Copenhagen. Please consider taking a private guided tour – worth every cent.

    Warm regards

September 19, 2019

Hello Nicky. I am translating Out of Africa into Vietnamese and found your post by chance. Thanks for a nice post.

    Nicky Fitzgerald
    September 20, 2019

    I am delighted to hear that this little story interested you – thank you so much for getting in touch and all the best with your translation of this magnificent memoir.

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